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Unleashing Your Remarkable Potential
Issue 4.12 - March 19, 2007 - ISSN: 1551-6571
Be Present! Seven Ways to Be More Productive and Enjoy Life More
Each day and each moment of each day is a gift that we all have been given. When you stop to think about it you know this is true. But it is an easy fact to forget when you open your email, look at your to-do list or see a steady stream of people asking you for help or to get something done . . . now. The world conspires to keep us moving faster and to multi-task at every turn.
Unfortunately most of the time when we are moving at that frenetic pace we aren’t at peak efficiency or effectiveness. We know this too, but too often we don’t act on that knowledge. What we need to remember is the value of right now.
And right now…
and right now.
The value of the present moment.
When we stop multi-tasking and live remembering and valuing the present moment we will paradoxically get more done. We will have better relationships, we will learn more that we can apply in the future and we will enjoy ourselves more each day.
To get to these benefits we must get past the pace and seemingly the expectations of the world around us. We must find ways to slow down enough to be present in each moment. The rest of this article offers seven ways to be present so you can reap the great benefits of doing so.
Be grateful for the “present.” Let’s put first things first. If you want to be more present in every conversation and situation, you must be grateful for that moment. Even if you don’t like the situation, when you are grateful for the opportunity you are better able to stay mentally in the moment rather thinking about what you will do “next.”
Note: Granted, this first piece of advice is a bit philosophical and doesn’t provide you with a specific strategy or tactic, but this philosophy will drive your ability and willingness to do all of tactics that follow. Read on for the specific actions you can take.
Take a deep breath. When you find your mind wandering beyond the current situation, start by taking a deep breath. This breath can serve as a reminder to help you refocus and to center you as well.
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A Conversation with Rosa Say Focus on the present moment exclusively. Do one thing – just one thing – at a time. The crux of remaining in the present is to focus on the task, person, situation or whatever is in your current moment. If you are thinking about what you are going to say next, what you are going to do next, or what you are going to have for dinner you aren’t focused on right now.
Reduce the noise. Turn off the iPod, the radio or the television unless that is your current moment focus. The noise and distractions around us can easily pull us away from the current moment, divert our focus and reduce our effectiveness.
Refocus your inner voice. When you notice yourself judging, analyzing or having another sort of mental dialogue in the current moment, shift your mental focus by saying to yourself, “now, now, now” or some other phrase that will help you bring yourself back to the current moment, situation or activity.
Be more observant. Pay closer attention to the present moment! Notice what your senses are noticing, but what you may be unconsciously tuning out. What is the real message under the words you are hearing? What do you smell, what can you taste? What do you hear (in addition to the words)? When you open yourself up to be more observant you give your brain something to think about that is relevant and helpful in the present situation, rather thinking about another time, place or activity.
Ask “What do I want to remember about this moment in time?” I once read the advice that when you are on vacation at a place you truly value, that you should take an omni-sensory, three-dimensional picture of everything about that place and time in your mind. Taking this “picture” helps you savor the moment in the present and helps you remember it forever. This advice combines the concepts of being grateful and being observant. I believe this approach can be used anytime, as a way to capture a moment for memory, for future reflection and more. You can stimulate this activity by asking, what do I want to remember about right now? Or a similar question that works best for you.
These activities will make a difference in your results – both personal and professional. The benefits mentioned at the start of this article will all be yours as you perfect the habit of being in the present moment.
Potential Principle – All we have is now. When we recognize the value of right now and stay connected to it, we are creating more opportunities to benefit from the experience of each moment.
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Don’t Eat the Marshmallow…Yet!
The Secret to Sweet Success in Work and Life
by Joachim de Posada and Ellen Singer
This fictional parable starts with the results of a real research study. In a well-known, Stanford University study children were left in a room with a marshmallow, and given the choice of eating it then or fifteen minutes later, when they were promised an additional marshmallow.
One now, or two in fifteen minutes.
Some ate them right away and some waited.
The study’s significance came in the follow-up 10 years later when the researchers found that the children who had waited for the second marshmallow were more successful as adults than those who ate the first marshmallow immediately.
This principle of the value and importance of delayed gratification is the basis for this short story. The story is compelling and fun, if a bit predictable in the conclusion. While this isn’t the best story I’ve read in this genre, it is enjoyable and the message is well described in a variety of ways.
If you like books of this type, I’d encourage adding this one to your reading list. Or, if you’d like to read more but seldom find time, this brief story might help you get into the reading habit.
You can learn more about the book at Amazon.com
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